I’ve recently opened up (a little) about this little alien disease that seems to have taken up residence in my body. Depression. I really didn’t think I would have it or be diagnosed with it, but what do I know? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Yesterday was some interesting business. Thank God for medication and my husband because honestly I don’t know how else I would have made it out alive. Oh, and my new doctor. I guess I should thank him, too. Any who…
Yesterday started off as any other Monday does…with eye rolls, sighs, grunts, feet stomping and whines – the kids felt the same way, too. It was their first day back after fall break (what the fuck is that, by the way? They get a break because of a season change? Pfft). About an hour after I get to the office I get a call from the middle school that my kids attend. Lovely. I answer, hoping and praying it’s some stupid “will you bring me a book” phone call so I can tell them they’ve lost their ever loving mind and go back to class. No such luck. It’s The Middle’s counselor.
I listen as she explains the events that have transpired this morning, concern from a friend of The Middle’s led them to an investigation and a sit down. She’s been self-harming and that one single time that happened months ago “as an experiment” has been on repeat for a while now. It’s at this point I can’t breathe, I can’t see, I can’t think and I have no idea what happened to my voice. I don’t know how much time passes before I’m able to mutter a cognitive sentence explaining I’m on my way to the school.
On the way there I call Mr. EMT, who’s exhausted and hasn’t yet fallen asleep from working the night before, and crazily go through what was just explained to me. He’s still dressed and he will meet me at the school and suddenly I feel a little better. He’s home, he’s awake, he’s going to help us through this. I love my Mr. EMT.
At the school The Middle is in tears, Mr. EMT is his perfectly calm self, and I’m shaking uncontrollably as the counselor goes more in detail to what happened. I’m numb. I’m scared. I’m broken. My heart hurts for The Middle and all I want to do is grab her and hug her, all I want to do is tell her she’s going to be ok. I wait for that until we’re in the safe bubble of our living room, away from prying eyes and awkwardness. Here this beautiful little child sits and she’s scared, and she’s broken, and it takes everything inside me not to join her in the endless tears. But I have to be strong. I have to be the mom and her backbone. We talk at length and we look at the paper her school counselor gave us with the name and number of a therapist who specializes in this and we all three agree it’s the best thing.
Mr. EMT eventually goes to sleep and The Middle and I spend lovely moments together talking about anything she wants to talk about. It’s like any other day, but more. I hate to leave her, I hate that I have an appointment with my new doctor, but I need to go to this more than ever. We spend an hour going over me, what’s been going on, how I cope with things, and I let him know about the events of earlier and I lose it. I crumble and I just cry. It’s too much. Everything is just too much. I feel like a rubber band must feel when it’s stretched so far that it’s developing a hole just before it breaks.
He speaks of depression, how my medicine will help me out of it, and he mentions seeing a possibility of a nervous breakdown. I’m not there yet, he says, but he fears I’m pretty close. Maybe I am. I gather myself back together and we talk for just over an hour. He told me the one thing I’ve read from The Bloggess countless times that has always resonated with me, Depression Lies. It’s not hopeless after all.
I left his office with a sliver of hope. I might be losing my shit, but I have help finding it and putting it back together and most importantly, so does The Middle. I think The Middle and I can both become better and we can do it together. She won’t feel alone going to therapy because her mom needs it just as badly. The scar we both carry inside and outside will heal with time.
This week’s prompt from Tina, at Not Just Another Mother Blogger.
“Best hidden away” and/or “scar”